Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and love is on the collective psyche of many. This weekend I was making a post for our IG page @couples.counseling.for.parents about 3 things partners need to remember as they parent.
Parenting is Hard
Parenting is hard and it can put some intense stress on partners. It’s really easy to get mixed up in the stress and start seeing your partner as a problem, not a support. So, one of the things I mentioned that partners need to remember as they parent, is that their partner is someone they love.
Sometimes We Forget We Love Each Other
Yes, as partners we do forget that we love one another at times. Parenting demands so much energy, focus, time, and effort that partners can find themselves not having much to give one another. This experience can become so common that partners forget the things that brought them together in the first place.
This weekend was a helpful reminder for me in regards to remembering that I love Erin. I don’t know what it was or if it was anything in particular really. But we had fun together. There were moments where we just laughed about stupid stuff. We hugged, held hands, got to be close.
You And Your Partner Have A History Together
During these times I found myself remembering some of our history together as a couple. We have known one another for 17 years. Married for almost 14. Three kids. Five pregnancies. Moved all over the country. Started a business together. Have built a life together.
I love Erin. Our histories are interwoven. She is smart, funny, adventurous, fiery, strong, a great mom, my best friend, and my partner in life.
Valentine’s Day Is A Day For Remembering
Sometimes being parents and dealing with the beautiful chaos of parenting we forget we love the one we are parenting with. Remembering that we love our partner is an important practice in a couple relationship. The fact that we need to practice remembering doesn’t mean anything negative about our relationship. It speaks more to the busyness, stress, and wildness of parenting. It’s easy to get distracted and forget in this context.
Valentine’s Day is a good day to remember. Remember that you love your partner. It can do wonders for your relationship.